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Reinvent Your Life – The Perfect Holiday/New Year’s Kick-Off Time


If something is important enough, even if the odds are against you, you should still do it.   – Elon Musk

Reinvention is our Soul Food – it lifts our spirits, rekindles our fire, ignites our passion and renews our spirit.

Reinventions come in all shapes and sizes. They are “aha moments” when you realize that you really want to do something new, return to something you used to love doing, explore something you’ve dared only to dream of, explore your passions.  It’s a chance to further discover the real you and what you’re made of.  It’s chance to become the best version of yourself.

Overwhelmed by the thought of Reinventing but desperate to shake things up?  Wanting to explore that creative part of you that they’ve tried to suppress in you since you were seven years old?

Over the Holidays and as we approach the New Year, give yourself the perfect gift of precious time to spend on something you’ve been meaning to explore or delve into. Stop reading other people’s social media feeds, don’t binge watch anymore shows on NETFLIX…and do something truly special for yourself. Jumpstart your Reinvention.

Take the time over the holidays, don’t wait till the typical “January 1st” New Year’s Resolution. Start TODAY!

The holidays give you more down time so you can actually reinvest time in something that’s meaningful to you. The things you keep putting off because you have no time – just try spending THREE SESSIONS of time on something you’re interested on focusing on – whether it’s THREE HOURS, THREE HALF DAYS, THREE EVENINGS…whatever fits into your down time.

Once you do this, you’ll get “into it” and start to find ways to calendar more sessions of time working on this Reinvention plan, hobby, habit, inspiration. Don’t be discouraged if it’s a multi-year plan – it has to start somewhere so make NOW the time to create the plan, find your mentors, research what you need to know to create this new reality.

Here’s a list of places you can start looking into … Just pick one for starters – could be the catalyst for amazing new changes and inspiration in your life:








Personal Brand








Leisure activities


Home Décor

No matter how big or small, a reinvention can completely shift your mood, morale and sense of adventure.  So go for it – give yourself an hour or two to delve into this just a little and embark on your Life Reinvention – it’s all yours!

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The Dog Ate My Homework…and Other Excuses for not Living Your Ideal Life

 “He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else.”  – Benjamin Franklin

Whether  it’s been on your mind or never crossed your mind, there comes a time where reality about this notion of “life” and what it really is settles in and you realize that you’re saying “I wish had…” I should have…” What if I…”

Do you really want to wake up one day, perhaps when it really is too late and have regrets about all the things you might have done.  Call it the “Bucket List,” “Second Chapters,” “Life Reinventions,” they’re all a nagging reminder that living large and the journey of life can be quite extraordinary. It can be spiritual, health, career, hobby, relationships, business, skill related – anything you’ve thought of that might enhance this journey in your life.

Do you find yourself living vicariously through others –  marveling at their facebook page, reading stories of amazing ventures that others dared to take on, life changes that were a complete 360 that someone had the courage to figure out and tackle?

STOP!  Stop doing that to yourself.  It’s time to stop making excuses.  Especially now as you start to enter the “Empty Nester” phase of life.  This is the most exciting time of rediscovery in your life.  Recognize the things that have held you back for the last 20+ years and stop hiding behind them because if you ever had an excuse, now’s the time to dispel it.

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“Running in Heels” – Ladies, Listen Up – This One’s For You! #HappyReinventing

A friend of mine recently referred to me as the “CEO of Running in Heels Magazine” — I laughed, thought it was cute and clever, and then realized what it really meant.

I’m sure many of you can relate to that statement and I’m officially owning it. It may be a metaphor but I can truly say I have definitely spent the last 30 years running in heels – from the day I opened the doors of my business – chasing and running after new business, running after the desire to be the best at what I do, keep everyone happy, meet our deadlines, reach our goals and build a successful life full of love, health and prosperity.

Then came a family – running to create the ideal home, running to the market, running to the home design and supply stores to get the house in livable condition and keep improving on it (for 30 years), running to have a full social life, running to get home on time, running to put a meal on the table, running to keep my man happy.

Then came my fabulous children – running from work to home and back in the early days while juggling babies, nursing, diaper changing, playtime, reading time, cuddle time…all while juggling work, deadlines, clients, business travel. Running to and from one obligation to another while running home to those sweet and slowly growing faces, hugs, intense moments of love, education and entertainment.

Then came school years – running to and from school meetings, events, conferences, functions, projects while running back to clients, office, work, airports and definitely running to airplanes. Running to get a little food, a little workout, a little playtime, and some lovin’ with my hubby.

Now I find myself running to catch my breath, running to find balance, running to find some inner peace while still juggling, running, traveling, working and running a great family and business!

Of course, as the years have gone on we find new things to run to and from, we find new passions, hobbies, social occasions to layer into our fabulous and busy lives so we just keep running and running. We never really stop to think about the fact that we’re running from here to there – physically, mentally, emotionally – we just do it, as it’s just the way we have to move through all the things we have created in our lives.

All while wearing heels…

Yes, almost every day! I’m on the short side so I always felt that heels best complimented by work attire, definitely made me feel up to the task, and when I found platform sandals for weekends…eureka!

So yes, I deserve this title – CEO of Running in Heels Magazine – I own it and wear it proudly…as do all of the women out there who are running in these same heels! All the power to us! Have we started a new movement? Better run off to figure this out and build another business vertical!!


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I love other peoples’ stories. I see a family , a woman eating alone, a man in a biz suit, two friends chatting, a group of teenagers hanging out…and I’m curious.  Who are they, where are they from, what have they endured, who have they inspired, what’s been their contribution to humanity or community, are they happy or sad, coming or going, simple or complex, where were they born, where are they headed, what do they think about, what’s their story???

Not everything and everyone is as they appear and behind everything we see is some kind of story, anecdote, history, future, nuggets of what I deem to be interesting…

All around us there are stories – they just show up in different ways – songs, ads, social messages, movies, TV shows, photographs.

By nature, we are curious human beings and thus the ongoing interest in stories.

Everyone is a story, they are the center of their story, the Protagonist – each and everyone of us.  We bring our own self-working, emotions and experiences to all that is around us and everyone we interact with and it shapes how we perceive and experience our worlds.

The little anecdotes that are our lives are either gone unnoticed or become headlines…or somewhere in between, and they’re all little stories.

Have you ever looked at a house on your street and wondered who lives there? Watched a little old lady walking down the street and wondered what her long life sorry can tell – history, joys, observations, wisdoms, heartbreak, moments of courage?  The man sitting with his two boys having breakfast – is it just another day in their routine or is this the special monthly breakfast with divorced parents?

I’m always curious, I love to wonder and weave stories and tales in my mind and then wonder how right or wrong my hunch is about what I’m observing?

As I go about my busy day with my very busy mind, it never ceases to amaze me the room for this imaginative thought.  It’s a game of sorts and is probably the reason I don’t mind chatting with strangers.

So next time you glance at the old man crossing the road, that teenager with her friends giggling over a coffee at Starbucks, that sad lady on the phone in the middle of a shopping center, the young man at the grocery checkout, the clerk helping you at the yogurt store…everyone has a story – they’re the protagonist in their life and just maybe we’re playing a supporting role in their story.

Aren’t you a bit curious?

What’s your story? Are you living the story you want your life to be? It’s never too late to Reinvent your life in a myriad of ways.


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Summer Inspires Reflection…and Reinvention


Reinvention, renewal, inspired ideas…they all have time to breed just a little more during those lazy summer afternoons when you may be taking an extra walk, sitting on a beach, hopefully even holidaying somewhere wonderful.

These are moments when we disconnect from the everyday moments that drive our every movement, the tasks and the chores of life, jobs, family, commitments and just take a deep breath – literally and metaphorically.

When you take that deep breath, that pause, that moment of reflection, what do you do with that time? What could you do with that time?  Are you using it in a quiet and important way to focus on you?

Hello, are you still in there?  It’s not such an odd question, really.  Don’t we all get so caught up in the business of life, that we don’t stop to make sure we’re on the right trajectory?

That time is yours – so use it wisely.  Are you doing what you want? Inspiring yourself to have the greatness in your life you deserve?  Loving the best way you can? Sharing the way you want? Indulging in the things you love? Nurturing your passions?

Every moment is a chance for Reinvention so never stop asking yourself if you’re happy and how to have more of what you want/need/love in your life.

Be Inspired, Get Inspired and Go For It – It’s Yours!

Have a beautiful Summer Day.


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Re-Find Your Passion – Tennis Was My First Love

LIVE WITH PASSION quoteWhen I was a little girl, I learned to play tennis. My dad played semi-pro in Australia against some of the big Aussie tennis names and understood the value and fun of the game – old school tennis, clay courts, tennis whites, wood rackets.  Classic!

Lucky for me, my parents instilled that love for tennis in us kids as well.  My sisters and I loved to play and I took that much further – always had a racquet in my hand and as we moved from country to country, tennis was my sanctuary, my “go to place.”  A way to bond with new friends in new places with some common ground.

I played through high school – chose cheerleading over tennis team (yes, admitting it!), through college, and always recreationally with friends and family.

And then it stopped…just like that, life got in the way, and it wasn’t until my boys were old enough that I had to get them on the court and get a racquet in their hands too. A life skill, sport and passion that I wanted them to have.

As I started to play here and there with them, it reminded me how much I loved and missed the game and vowed every time to keep playing…but I didn’t.  Life got in the way.

They went to tennis camp every summer, played occasionally with friends and the occasional family trek to the court – 6 blocks away -happened.

I had “tennis envy” of everyone that played and still loved the game but everything else seemed to take precedent and I was doing all these other activities – Zumba, Pilates, business activities, mom jobs… but not tennis.

Fast forward – my youngest son is on the high school tennis team and for years has become an excellent player.  For the last few years when I asked him to play he refused.  Thought he was too good and didn’t want to bother with me!

Hmmm – that got me going and when my husband asked me to sign up with him for a tennis clinic, without thinking I said “yes.”

That first week I played five times, enlisted a coach and for three months I have been fully re-engaged in what was my first love and passion – tennis.

I cannot tell you how incredible it feels to be reconnected …

My scheduling priorities have shifted from “I can’t exercise to because I have a business dinner,” to “I can’t do that business dinner or drinks…because I’m playing tennis!”  As a result, I’m also finding lots of new tennis partners – business colleagues and friends – that we can now socialize over a game, rather than the traditional lunch, drinks, dinner plans.  Love that!

What’s your passion that you’d love to rekindle?  What’s that one thing you keep saying you want to do or revisit that you once loved? Was it learning a language? Playing the guitar? Painting? Indulging in some hobby that made you happy?

This Reinvention is a tremendous antidote to boredom, a mid-life crisis, a yearning to stir things up in your life, a desire to be happy and just have fun,  so if you have that itch and feel the need to mix things up a bit and nurture your passions, give it a try – you’ll be amazed at the results you feel and how it affects so much of your life. #GoHaveFun


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You CAN Have Your Cake And Eat It Too!!! Go Ahead – Reinvent Your Life – Just How You Want It!

Since it’s my Birthday week, it’s quite fitting to share this post …as I will be having my cake and eating it too!!

“You CAN have your cake and eat it too!”  We’ve all heard that expression throughout our lives and many have come to accept it.  But have you ever thought about what it really means, and why CAN’T you have your cake and eat it too?

Think about it – the expression implies that you can have your cake – but what? You’re supposed to just stare at it and NOT eat it?

When it comes to Life Reinvention – I’m a firm believer that you MUST have your cake, and  you MUST eat it too!!

You are entitled to have what you want in life – you have the power and your responsibility is to use it, own it and grab life by the horns and make it what you want.

No wonder so many people are lost and stuck in a life that they don’t want to be living.  They’ve been brought up believing that they are not to indulge in the things in life that make them happy and that you can only have “so much” but not the whole enchilada!

That’s absurd!  Why on earth can you not do what you love, be with who you want to be, create the hobbies and interests that you want to cultivate, build the life that is your optimal existence.  If you’re not hurting others, and what you want is not at someone else’s expense, you deserve to pursue all that makes you happy.

Are you afraid to go after it? Do you think you may not succeed? You won’t be able to attain it? Is the risk not worth the reward?

You need to prioritize yourself and begin to create the framework for what you want.  These can be small reinventions – baby steps towards the bigger goal.  But start setting your sights on what you want from your life and be clear about how to get there. I often talk about creating that roadmap – without it you just won’t get there or be able to chip away at the obstacles with clarity if you can’t define the path for yourself.

You want to have your cake AND eat it too? Then go for it!

Here’s what I do to stay the course, after I’ve identified something that I want to embrace (or tackle) as a new part of  “project me”…

Every night I go to bed, thinking about the few major things I want to accomplish the next day (or on Sundays, for the next week – in which case I write it down.)  Sometimes they are personal goals, some are business goals and tactical plans…. Some are family plans and projects… I’m not a  “type A” person, or so I’d like to think, but I find it keeps my head organized and clutter free, and it helps me get through the things I want.

We all  juggle a lot and keeping all the plates in the air is a fine skill – fun if you really master the art – a daily challenge – but fun, nonetheless!  Weekends are for the loftier goals but squeezing in some of the soft and precious stuff into the middle of a work week is good for the soul.  Sit back in the middle of a busy day – close your eyes – take a deep breath and clear your mind.  Allow yourself that focus and clarity to indulge and get back to “you”.

When was the last time you stopped and put yourself at the front of the line?  You’re entitled…

Yes, you’re entitled to have your cake and go ahead…EAT IT TOO!!!

And to quote the amazing new campaign by CADILLAC – #DareGreatly

“Our Greatest glory is not in never falling, but in getting up every time we do.” – Confucius


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OPEN THE NEXT CHAPTER – Kick-start your Reinvention


You’ve weighed all the critical issues, banged your head against the wall, complained to everyone you know, you walk around grumpy or frustrated but you’re not sure why. You know you need to do something, you’re just not quite sure what that “something” is.

It’s time to Reinvent Your Life, so, now what do you do?

Let’s start here…what were you doing when you were five years old, maybe 12, perhaps 17? When were you truly happy?

What did you dream about doing when you grow up? A rock star, an artist, a fireman, a dancer…

Dig deep, close your eyes and think of what you used to imagine your life to be …”one day.”

The little rock star grew up, was told to go to school, learn something that would help make you money one day and get a job so you could help support the family…the guitar that you might have played as a teenager started to gather dust and ultimately got sold in the garage sale or put away in the attic (figuratively and literally).

So here you are, 25 years later, the lawyer, chained to your desk, your life duties, commitments, financial responsibilities…now your kid’s dreams perhaps?

I ask you this – when was the last time you picked up a guitar?

Did you ever consider how you’d feel if you bought yourself a guitar? The thrill of nurturing your decadent, ridiculous, childish whim? Ok, so maybe you’ll not become the next Eddie VanHalen but what if you took guitar lessons – get a book, remind yourself how to play; maybe get some “like-minded” buddies together and put a weekend garage band together.

Sound ridiculous? FABULOUS! It should!! This will nurture your soul in a way you can’t imagine, and clearly haven’t dared to dream of doing!

And they wonder why people go through a mid-life crisis?  It doesn’t have to be a crisis – it’s called nurturing your soul and indulging your passions!

Perhaps when you go to work on Monday, you’ll have a skip in your step or a smile on your face that just wasn’t there before.

The goal here is to create balance, dig deep and tap into the things that stir you and give you a sense of accomplishment, satisfaction, stimulation and simply make you happy while getting back in touch with your true self.

Hello, are you still in there?

Ask yourself that question and look back to that moment when you dreamed.  It’s priceless…


–     Keep notes on the things that make you smile in the course of your day – track it in a little notebook —

  • the things that make your heart sing
  • the places you like to go
  • the smells you like
  • the sounds that you like…all of these are little signs of the things in life you want to surround yourself with.
  • go somewhere and daydream
  • get magazines of all sorts – flip thru them and pull out anything that gets your attention – a headline, a chair, the color of a wall, a favorite shoe, a look, a font style a profound statement…collect things that excite or interest you
  • do you see a pattern, similarities – anything that inspires a “maybe I could/should” thought?
  • do it again a few weeks later
  • look in the classified ads – ideas
  • create a budget of your life – What do you need – then write it down – what you want – include what you have to take care of and the things you’d like to include – aka “indulgences” – i.e. vacations, college savings, shopping, sushi one time a week, language lessons…
  • establish the connection between need-want-attain through happiness
  • believe it, project it, create it, visualize and then detail the process to get there
  • the success, the challenges
  • the ideas, the tactics
  • the exit strategy for your current situations

You’re entitled so there’s no need to deprive yourself of the life you want. Take care of the ones around you, don’t abandon them in what might be considered a selfish aspiration, but take the baby steps to create your own happiness. If it’s a bold Reinvention that doesn’t affect others, have the courage to go for it.

  • Sunshine? Go outside!
  • Food? Go get it!
  • Work? Do more of it!
  • Leisure Time? Create more of it!
  • People? Invite them into your life more!
  • Music? Turn it on!

The answers to these  questions help you focus on the things you love – bringing them to the forefront of your mind – articulating and identifying the things that make you feel simply fabulous!!

Always have a vision of the future you want!

Enjoy and #HappyReinventing

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End of Summer…Chill – Reflect – Reinvent

It’s Labor Day weekend – a great time to reflect on the beauty of the Summer while digging into the “back-to-school” mentality of the Fall.  Maybe you had a few lazy days where you got to reflect on your life, dream about the things you intend to do this coming year and actually made that list that will be your roadmap for your Reinvented future.

Or maybe you didn’t…

That’s ok – it’s never too late!  You can do it any time – steel 15 minutes and make a list of all the fun you want to be having in your life, the dreams you’ve not yet fulfilled, the places you want to go, the career you wish you had, the relationships you’d love to surround yourself with, the health regimen you are inspired by, or the hobbies that you’d love to indulge in.

Lists – commitments – visualization – action…

It’s not that complicated if you create the intention and have the true desire to Reinvent your life, even in some tiny little way.

This is YOUR life – so seize the day and don’t let fear of change get in your way.  Life can be a tremendous adventure and each time you take those baby steps to creating what you want, the rewards will feel fabulous.  Allow yourself that.

Indulge yourself – you absolutely deserve it!

Enjoy and #HappyReinventing

Happy Labor Day

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TIME OUT! This is Your Life! Reinvention Inspiration

It’s time for an adult TIME OUT! If you can dream it, you can create it!

Do you ever take the time to think about your life? Are you satisfied, elated, complacent, living the dream?  Is it time to answer that question honestly and own your truth?

It’s ok to admit that you’re not living your life just how you want it.  It could be something minor that you just wish you were doing.  It may be a major life decision that you keep putting off, thinking it’s easier to stay in your comfort zone.

Maybe it’s time you allow yourself an adult TIME OUT and a chance to sit back, address the question and focus on your dreams and what you really want in this one life you have.

We are all caught up in the day-to-day of our lives – the work, family, friends, life juggling act. How often do you create “me time”? Like most, probably never. 

Do you feel that those fleeting thoughts while you’re driving, doing dishes or working out is sufficient “me time” to figure it all out? 

News flash – it’s not enough and it’s not dedicated to you and your very specific agenda of Reinventing your life.

If you’re curious or committed, research shows that you actually need to set time aside with a focus and purpose.  Even put an agenda of topics together to think about!

This may sound a little crazy or unnecessary, however, if you think about it, those thoughts such as “I wish I could…” Or “I’m going to try something different…” Or when the kids grow up I will finally do…” or “I’m too young to be feeling this way…” are all good, a start, but it’s a far cry from putting a true road map together to actually realizing your Reinvention.

 Make a date with yourself a “Time Out Weekend” – a half day, a weekend, a few weeks – whatever you can carve out. Create a few lists that you can work from as your working tasks for that time.

 The lists should consist of:

1. What I used to dream of, think my life would be like when I was younger.  Cover different topics – personal, relationships, health, work, career, hobbies, spiritual, community, volunteer, friendships.

2. Why I took the path I did to be where I am today – who influenced me, why I am where I am, what impact on my life do I believe these things are having on where I want to be.

3. What I envision I could create in my life if I really made it a priority. Cover different topics – personal, relationships, health, work, career, hobbies, spiritual, community, volunteer, friendships.

Be honest with yourself. You don’t need to share this with anyone – it’s for your use and as you spend time with this exercise, look at the gap between your reality and your dreams.  Where can you bridge that gap? What plans can you make to affect just one piece of your life? How can you empower yourself to Reinvent your life?

If you start with this gift to yourself – the gift of time and reflection – you’ll be on the way to creating a profound change that you never realized was possible.

Allow yourself this indulgence. This is YOUR life and you deserve it. Let your fears become adventures. Let your trepidation become courage. Let your complacency become happiness. 

Take a little time out!

Enjoy and #HappyReinventing


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