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A Letter To My Parents #HappyReinventing

I wrote this Blog sitting on a plane one day on one of my many cross-country flights, contemplating my wonderful life and thinking about all that I’m doing with the “Reinventing Your Life” space – my media company, website, book, blogs, interviews, content and social media.

I started this “hobby-turned-business” because people have always told me how lucky I am that I get to do what I want, when I want, how I want and my business – THE SHARPE ALLIANCE – always makes it look like I’m just having fun.

Not so! It’s hard work but I owe a lot to my parents who gave me the tools to recognize HOW to have the life that I want – entrepreneurial, no box, free spirited, balanced, passionate, curious and driven.  As they say, if you love what you do, you’ll never work a day in your life! And I do!!

For that I’m grateful and thus, I wrote this sitting on that plane ride and decided to share it with you.  I hope it resonates for you.  We don’t always stop and take stock of the profound impact our parents have had and the learnings we have taken away from all of our life experiences with them – good, bad, different, other… but if it weren’t for them, we wouldn’t be here!

I love you Mommy and Daddy! This one’s for you…


Thank you for showing me what’s possible

Thank you for bringing me up with the view that there’s no box

Showing me the world

How to be strong and independent

The safety I grew up with

The security to be me

To be self-reliant

To be open

To be inclusive

To be accepting

To see what’s possible

How to love

How to live

How to give

How to be compassionate

How be inspired

How to be curious

How to speak up

How to want more always

How to be involved


Not because it’s your birthday or Father’s Day or Mother’s Day

Just because I can. Thank you.

I love you!



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Freedom to Reinvent – The Man with the Violin

FREEDOM TO REINVENT – The Man with the Violin

Freedom is the Oxygen of the Soul – Moshe Dayan

Sadly, the events in the recent news make us realize how fragile life is and the importance of seizing the moment, making the most out of our lives and living life to the fullest.  Don’t wait to do the things you dream about.  Consider what your small or big Reinventions could be as you read my latest blog post.

Reinvention is our Soul Food.  It lifts our spirit, rekindles our fire, ignites our passion and renews our spirit. There are ways to transform parts of our life that impact all the moving pieces and when we’re open to the options and even the challenge, it can truly change our spirit, mood and complete environment.  We have the freedom to make these changes and Reinvent to our heart’s content.  Wouldn’t you like to take advantage of something that’s just at your fingertips?

I’ve often said that a great Reinvention can start with simply fulfilling a little desire and something we’ve been yearning to do but never got around to.  Having that extra hobby or passion to engage in lifts our spirit and nurtures our soul.

Well, I met a gentlemen last month who embodies that story and as I started talking to him, the way he lit up when he shared his story with me, said it all.

I was traveling on a biz trip when a mutual friend introduced us in the gateway prior to boarding the plane.  I knew he was heading to the same conference I was and I knew the business he was in.  He was carrying a rectangular case onto the plane and heading to the Intl Licensing Show.  I was curious what goodies he was carrying in the case with him for the conference. When he told me it was his violin and he “would t go anywhere without it” I was intrigued.

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DOORS – The Gateway to Reinvention



Doors – they hold the promise of something new, curiosity, adventure, fresh starts, mystery. They all stand just on the other side of that door.  So close yet so far away.  Bringing two worlds together, yet part of the same. Inches apart yet so divided.

Doors separate rooms, tones, themes, experiences, activities.  They have their own distinct space and worlds yet that one door brings them together when open. Blending the visual and energy of two different spaces.  As you step through one to the other, the new environment is usually in deep contrast to the other, leaving traces of the old to the new.  The door symbolizes a gateway to something different.

The metaphor of a door captures the moment in time when we’re on the precipice of a movement, decision, opportunity. We stand in the familiar, with the vision of what’s on the other side right before us.  We can choose to walk through it, we can choose to stand in the doorway till we’re ready,  we can turn back and never cross that threshold.

Doors offer a glimpse into the future.. what’s next. The option to indulge in it are yours. Is it freedom or confinement? Future or regression? Stand still or Reinvent your life? These defining moments, whether small or large are the doorways of your life that offer you opportunity or confine you. The choice is always yours.

I always walk through those doorways, usually I run thru them, excitedly approaching what’s next. What do you do? How do you live your life?

And what does your doorway look like? Big, small. simple, ornate? Wood, iron? With windows, without? How do the doors that present themselves in your life show up? And when? Are they barriers for you? Do they stop you or invite you?

There’s a saying that when one door closes, another opens.   Do you believe this?

What’s your interpretation of the doors in your life?


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TIME OUT! This is Your Life! Reinvention Inspiration

It’s time for an adult TIME OUT! If you can dream it, you can create it!

Do you ever take the time to think about your life? Are you satisfied, elated, complacent, living the dream?  Is it time to answer that question honestly and own your truth?

It’s ok to admit that you’re not living your life just how you want it.  It could be something minor that you just wish you were doing.  It may be a major life decision that you keep putting off, thinking it’s easier to stay in your comfort zone.

Maybe it’s time you allow yourself an adult TIME OUT and a chance to sit back, address the question and focus on your dreams and what you really want in this one life you have.

We are all caught up in the day-to-day of our lives – the work, family, friends, life juggling act. How often do you create “me time”? Like most, probably never. 

Do you feel that those fleeting thoughts while you’re driving, doing dishes or working out is sufficient “me time” to figure it all out? 

News flash – it’s not enough and it’s not dedicated to you and your very specific agenda of Reinventing your life.

If you’re curious or committed, research shows that you actually need to set time aside with a focus and purpose.  Even put an agenda of topics together to think about!

This may sound a little crazy or unnecessary, however, if you think about it, those thoughts such as “I wish I could…” Or “I’m going to try something different…” Or when the kids grow up I will finally do…” or “I’m too young to be feeling this way…” are all good, a start, but it’s a far cry from putting a true road map together to actually realizing your Reinvention.

 Make a date with yourself a “Time Out Weekend” – a half day, a weekend, a few weeks – whatever you can carve out. Create a few lists that you can work from as your working tasks for that time.

 The lists should consist of:

1. What I used to dream of, think my life would be like when I was younger.  Cover different topics – personal, relationships, health, work, career, hobbies, spiritual, community, volunteer, friendships.

2. Why I took the path I did to be where I am today – who influenced me, why I am where I am, what impact on my life do I believe these things are having on where I want to be.

3. What I envision I could create in my life if I really made it a priority. Cover different topics – personal, relationships, health, work, career, hobbies, spiritual, community, volunteer, friendships.

Be honest with yourself. You don’t need to share this with anyone – it’s for your use and as you spend time with this exercise, look at the gap between your reality and your dreams.  Where can you bridge that gap? What plans can you make to affect just one piece of your life? How can you empower yourself to Reinvent your life?

If you start with this gift to yourself – the gift of time and reflection – you’ll be on the way to creating a profound change that you never realized was possible.

Allow yourself this indulgence. This is YOUR life and you deserve it. Let your fears become adventures. Let your trepidation become courage. Let your complacency become happiness. 

Take a little time out!

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High School Graduates – They’ve Got it Right!


Need inspiration ? Take a page from the young high school graduates and it will remind you of something we all need more of – a degree if innocence, optimism, belief and adventure.

My son just graduated high school and aside from the overwhelming, surreal place we’ve all arrived in our lives, that 18 years have passed us by, that my gorgeous little baby is now a young man about to go off into the big wide world alone and live a life that I won’t be as much a part of, that it tears my heart out while I’m so incredibly proud and excited for him, are all beside the point! Well, not really, but for the purpose of today’s blog, it is…

As we sat through the graduation speeches, and listened to the words of these young adults, there were some moments of clarity in all that I do in this Reinvention space.

We, as adults, have lost sight of the wonder, the hopefulness, the vision and the world of opportunity that we once looked through the lenses of when we were younger.

We hear in these speeches an extraordinary sense of optimism and a great sense of adventure to take on the world.  They don’t speak about fear and the things they can’t do and have to do. They speak of the excitement with which they’re going to conquer the world and their own lives.

There’s both a beauty and a truth in this that we must all remind ourselves of.  The spirit of Reinvention means going right back to that place, that moment in time, that feeling that sets your nerve endings on fire that you just want to jump out of your seat and go do something special with your life.

Take a moment and find that spirit in you – hello, are you still in there?  Get to the core of who you are, what you want and go out and create it.  Don’t let anyone or anything hold you back because of duty, conventional wisdoms, status quo.  Pretend you’re that 18 year old graduating senior all over again and think about what would you do with your life if you could Reinvent it all over again.

You can – it may take some planning, some entry level positions, some late nights studying, some moments of stepping way out of your comfort zone.  No one ever got anything without dedication, commitment and a sense of direction that wasn’t worthwhile so if you’re seeking that way of inspired living, chart your course and go conquer your life!


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Reinvention – The Ultimate Self Intervention!


Imagine my surprise when I had a call from a friend who need my help dealing with a personal issue with her son.  He was indulging just a little too much in pot smoking for a teenager and she felt at a loss on how to handle it.  Her conversations with him were falling on deaf teenage ears, her ex-husband wasn’t quite aligned with her POV and his friends could only say so much.  One thing she was certain of was that if he was going to stop, she’d need some outside help and she was calling in the cavalry.

I was touched and sympathetic, and although this wasn’t an “official” intervention, it was definitely something I had skills for that could be put to use – getting to the root of an issue, analyzing why one chooses to live in their current state, what the pleasure and pain principles are that are attached, what’s the ideal and desired outcome, and how to set the roadmap for change.

An Intervention is a cry for Reinvention. And a Reinvention requires a significant Self Intervention!

This is so similar to the work we do when we’re trying to reinvent our lives.  This notion of self intervention requires taking stock of the present and assessing the future.  If you’ve identified something that you’d like to reinvent in your life – health, spiritual, career, relationships, hobbies, family, habits – you’ve started the process.

You may need a support system, your own “cavalry” to give you moral, financial or physical support.  The sooner you can define who your champions and the nay-sayers are, the better.  You want to make sure that your path is clear and your goals are defined so that when someone tries to rattle your dream, you’re not easily swayed. Finding a mentor that can give you true insights and help build your confidence in what you’re doing is always smart.

How about trying a “Reinvention for a Day” program – do you want to learn Italian? Learn how to cook? Start a new work out program? Look at a new career? Find a day that you can dedicate to “the day in the life” and step into those shoes for a day?  Sounds like a great idea, doesn’t it? The greatest way to create your new reality is to experiment with it and see how it feels. Once you’ve stepped into it, you will figure out if it’s something you want more of and how to build it further into your life.

So go ahead, experiment, touch it, feel it, taste it and create your own intervention – disrupt the norm of your everyday life and go for it! Reinvent Your Life a little!

Some inspired quotes

It always seems impossible until its done.  Nelson Mandela

Action is the foundational key to all success.  Pablo Picasso

Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success.  Dale Carnegie

I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.  Bill Cosby

Positive thinking will let you do everything better than negative thinking will.  Zig Ziglar

The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing.  Walt Disney


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Where does one gain the courage to make a change?  It’s a great leap of faith and takes courage to define and explore your wants and needs in life.  When you understand that you need a change or have merely entertained the thought, the first reaction is usually, fear.  Fear of the unknown.  Reality of some sort sets in and you quickly negate the notion that you’re even entitled.  You play the same mantra over and over in your head, you come up with the same excuses and you rationalize to yourself all the reasons why your can’t pursue that dream, passion, relationship, career or goal.

It’s absurd and sad.  If not you, then, who?  How often do look at someone and wish you could have what they do?  You read about someone’s accomplishment or a story of their life and wonder if you could have done that. You sit in your job day-in and day-out “wishing” your life was different.  You see the way others are taking on the world and you want that, even a part of it.  But what is stopping you?  There’s absolutely no reason you can’t create the life you want.  It may take time, dedication, focus, but you can control all of this and not let the courage to do it get in the way.

I was recently at a marketing and sponsorship conference in Chicago.  An amazing city and a fabulous time.  I met some inspiring and fascinating peers in my business, heard stories of great reinventions – some done, some desired, some in the works.  I made new friends.  It made me look around and once again acknowledge that we’re all looking to be inspired, feel fulfilled, successful in some measure and happy with ourselves and our lives.  I heard so many stories from folks who were either excited about their lives, and in other cases, looking for the next great chapter.  Where do you fit on that spectrum?

What  on earth is stopping you from taking those steps?

Six action items you can do today to move towards your desired future:

  • Recognize that you’d like to create something new in your life – job, personal, health, spiritual, hobbies, skills
  • Identify and write down what it is, when you’d like to start why you’re interested in Reinventing part of your life; do it with true intention
  • Establish what the first 3-4 steps will be to move towards that goal – research, meeting with someone, go out and see how it’s being done, join a club or association that’s relevant…
  • Put a timeline down for yourself to take a few first steps – whether it’s days, weeks, months, even years and a gradual transition is required. For example: Tuesday night – research on subject xyz; Saturday afternoon – visit with someone who is in this new area of interest and ask them all the questions that are on your mind,
  • Keep a daily journal of related activities and ideas
  • Start to populate a plan that will move you towards your goals and share with others what you’re doing.  You’d be surprised how many will know someone or something that could be helpful to you and want to encourage you to do this.

So take one small step towards creating your life with courage. Don’t sit on the sidelines and look at others in awe when that could be you fulfilling your own dreams.  What may seem like a daunting task and unachievable is yours with each and every step you make towards it.  Every little step will be a major milestone for you to celebrate – with a pat on the back, a glass of wine, a victory dance – it’s yours so own it!

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Can Your Passion or Hobby Lead to a Reinvention?

Can your passion or hobby lead to a Reinvention?

You may be searching for your passion but maybe you’re trying too hard. In my journey and as I interview people for my book and new TV show, I hear many struggle with finding their passion.

Reinvention is about having that “aha moment” – saying to yourself “I want more,” “I want something different or new,” “I deserve to have something fun and beautiful in my life and I’m going to re-prioritize”…now, what is it?

Finding you passion is a very lofty and ambitious goal and like your Reinvention journey, there’s a roadmap to get there. You can’t necessarily wake up one day and “know” what your passion is or should be. It becomes daunting and then you’re disillusioned that you haven’t got a passion and there must be something wrong with you. Then you stop searching for something wonderful that you can enjoy…a hobby.

So start with a simple hobby – no agenda, no long term plan that this is going to “save your life” or get you out of what you’re doing. Just something that complements your day-to-day journey. Cooking, jewelry making, play an instrument, create some art, learn a language, kite flying, knitting, cycling, rock climbing, start a collection of something… Allow yourself an hour or two a week to indulge in it and see how much you can nurture your soul and find interest in something that’s yours and special to you. You’ll mingle with like-minded people around something of interest to you all and you never know what might come from that – but you have to allow it, that’s all.

Often, as we get older, priorities shift and we start to let go of those things that are important to us – we take care of others in our lives, we commit to our jobs and careers, which often aren’t related to our hobbies or interests but are simply a means to an end.

We then justify why we don’t have time for the things that make us feel good and settle for a complacent life.

It could be that a simple hobby, something you can have fun with and enjoy may ultimately become your passion. Then you can figure out if that hobby can transform your life.

You may need to pull your head out of your phone or computer long enough to see what’s going on around you. Do you realize how much of the world around you you’re missing as you text and email while you walk around? You’re probably not always present in your real world environment, surroundings and human interaction as you’re searching, reading and engaging in your digital microcosm.

It’s a bit of a metaphor for the way we live – buried in the present and not looking up to recognize what the world around us has to offer. Perhaps if we dreamed a little more and recognized that we’re entitled to have our hobbies and dreams, our new reality could be just what we want.

I’ve been interviewing folks for my book and TV show and recently came across a story of a woman who discovered a buried talent as an artist. She didn’t even know that she had a talent in her. She wasn’t frustrated and didn’t even wish she could follow her dream. She didn’t even realize that she had a gift, but she stumbled upon it and she allowed herself to recognize that what she was doing was truly art. It took one or two people to validate their enthusiasm for what she was doing, and that just continued to feed her passion that just kept growing. Years later, she’s highly regarded in her field, is making a wonderful living and is fulfilling a dream she didn’t even know she had.

She was open and receptive to the fact that what was showing up in her life was something that she could nurture. She chose to make something more out of it and allowed it to flourish. This is remarkable.

So do something new, look for a hobby, not a passion and let it take you places unexpected. It’s good for the soul. It’s your Reinvention.

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My  new blog just posted to the Huffington Post – 

Are you ready to stop and get off the hamster wheel of life that’s just not reaching the place you think you want to go?  Are you really living your dreams?  It’s OK to want that.  You know you can have it with a big wake up call to yourself, a dose of reality, and a passion for self-adventure

So when it comes to reinventing your life, isn’t it daunting to even consider how you might accomplish that? After all, you’ve been moving along for 20, 30, 40 + years in one direction.

The notion of a change of direction, a sharp left turn is exciting and even adventurous but really, not as easy as it sounds.

Nonetheless, exciting! So if you really wanted to consider it, even if just for a moment, wouldn’t it be worth it? If you could end up with what you wanted, living the life you only fantasize about?

It really is possible.  You just have to be prepared for bumps, challenges, sleepless nights, awe-inspiring moments and lots of people being very envious of you for having the courage to take the leap and go for what you want and definitely what you deserve!

Oh, and the ultimate result – happiness!

So, this is a journey and it can be short for little reinventions, long and arduous for big reinventions but whatever you see, it can be yours.

I’ve talked in my blogs on the Huffington Post for the last year, about the lists, the journey, the action plans and I will say it over and over, you have to create your roadmap to get to your destination.

Think of something you’ve talked about doing for years but haven’t been able to accomplish.  Did you make a list of your goals and map out the process and steps to accomplish your goal?  Sound silly? Well it isn’t.  It actually is like clicking on Yahoo! Maps when you’re trying to get to an unknown destination – you get the visual map, the step-by-step directions and the amount of time it will take you given the various routes you choose from.  Notice that you also end up at your destination when you follow the road map!?

This is the same exercise only what you’re trying to accomplish is MUCH more important – this is your life!!!

So chart your course and own the life you want.  It’s yours for the taking.

The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.” – Lao Tzu

People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.” – Zig Ziglar

In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure.” – Bill Cosby

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A New Year’s Reinvention

This is it – the day that we all resolve to look at our lives and do something different next year.  There’s no escaping it, it’s all around us and everyone’s talking about what they hope to do that will somehow improve the quality of their lives in 2014.  Ironically, last year, I chose not to write a blog about Reinvention and share these thoughts today because I believe that every day can be this day.  Reinvention is a great form of therapy and can be a good way to fight the post Holiday Blues.

If it were New Year’s Day 365 days a year, how would you Reinvent your life? The truth is, you can, and you are most likely to commit to it more if you start it any other day than today.  Getting swept up in the mass fanaticism of making a New Year’s Resolution isn’t as powerful as your own day of commitment that feels right for you.  Don’t  get me wrong, it’s a great starting point and I fully support you.  Just be aware of your intention and your focus to truly to commit to your Reinvention for all the right reasons – because it’s yours and you really want to do it.

Whether it’s a new career focus, a health kick, committing to volunteer work, more time with friends, traveling and expanding your horizons, going gluten-free, remodeling your home, kicking a bad habit – all Reinventions big or small are exciting and adventurous.  Lucky you for finding something that you want to focus on and evolve. Determine how you can create the journey to accomplish your goals, find the resources and support system you’ll need, establish your measurement for success and create milestones along the way so you can acknowledge and reward yourself.

If you can’t quite figure out what you want to Reinvent but you have that “itch,” look further for some inspiration at


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