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Reinvent Your Life – The Perfect Holiday/New Year’s Kick-Off Time


If something is important enough, even if the odds are against you, you should still do it.   – Elon Musk

Reinvention is our Soul Food – it lifts our spirits, rekindles our fire, ignites our passion and renews our spirit.

Reinventions come in all shapes and sizes. They are “aha moments” when you realize that you really want to do something new, return to something you used to love doing, explore something you’ve dared only to dream of, explore your passions.  It’s a chance to further discover the real you and what you’re made of.  It’s chance to become the best version of yourself.

Overwhelmed by the thought of Reinventing but desperate to shake things up?  Wanting to explore that creative part of you that they’ve tried to suppress in you since you were seven years old?

Over the Holidays and as we approach the New Year, give yourself the perfect gift of precious time to spend on something you’ve been meaning to explore or delve into. Stop reading other people’s social media feeds, don’t binge watch anymore shows on NETFLIX…and do something truly special for yourself. Jumpstart your Reinvention.

Take the time over the holidays, don’t wait till the typical “January 1st” New Year’s Resolution. Start TODAY!

The holidays give you more down time so you can actually reinvest time in something that’s meaningful to you. The things you keep putting off because you have no time – just try spending THREE SESSIONS of time on something you’re interested on focusing on – whether it’s THREE HOURS, THREE HALF DAYS, THREE EVENINGS…whatever fits into your down time.

Once you do this, you’ll get “into it” and start to find ways to calendar more sessions of time working on this Reinvention plan, hobby, habit, inspiration. Don’t be discouraged if it’s a multi-year plan – it has to start somewhere so make NOW the time to create the plan, find your mentors, research what you need to know to create this new reality.

Here’s a list of places you can start looking into … Just pick one for starters – could be the catalyst for amazing new changes and inspiration in your life:








Personal Brand








Leisure activities


Home Décor

No matter how big or small, a reinvention can completely shift your mood, morale and sense of adventure.  So go for it – give yourself an hour or two to delve into this just a little and embark on your Life Reinvention – it’s all yours!

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A Letter To My Parents #HappyReinventing

I wrote this Blog sitting on a plane one day on one of my many cross-country flights, contemplating my wonderful life and thinking about all that I’m doing with the “Reinventing Your Life” space – my media company, website, book, blogs, interviews, content and social media.

I started this “hobby-turned-business” because people have always told me how lucky I am that I get to do what I want, when I want, how I want and my business – THE SHARPE ALLIANCE – always makes it look like I’m just having fun.

Not so! It’s hard work but I owe a lot to my parents who gave me the tools to recognize HOW to have the life that I want – entrepreneurial, no box, free spirited, balanced, passionate, curious and driven.  As they say, if you love what you do, you’ll never work a day in your life! And I do!!

For that I’m grateful and thus, I wrote this sitting on that plane ride and decided to share it with you.  I hope it resonates for you.  We don’t always stop and take stock of the profound impact our parents have had and the learnings we have taken away from all of our life experiences with them – good, bad, different, other… but if it weren’t for them, we wouldn’t be here!

I love you Mommy and Daddy! This one’s for you…


Thank you for showing me what’s possible

Thank you for bringing me up with the view that there’s no box

Showing me the world

How to be strong and independent

The safety I grew up with

The security to be me

To be self-reliant

To be open

To be inclusive

To be accepting

To see what’s possible

How to love

How to live

How to give

How to be compassionate

How be inspired

How to be curious

How to speak up

How to want more always

How to be involved


Not because it’s your birthday or Father’s Day or Mother’s Day

Just because I can. Thank you.

I love you!



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DOORS – The Gateway to Reinvention



Doors – they hold the promise of something new, curiosity, adventure, fresh starts, mystery. They all stand just on the other side of that door.  So close yet so far away.  Bringing two worlds together, yet part of the same. Inches apart yet so divided.

Doors separate rooms, tones, themes, experiences, activities.  They have their own distinct space and worlds yet that one door brings them together when open. Blending the visual and energy of two different spaces.  As you step through one to the other, the new environment is usually in deep contrast to the other, leaving traces of the old to the new.  The door symbolizes a gateway to something different.

The metaphor of a door captures the moment in time when we’re on the precipice of a movement, decision, opportunity. We stand in the familiar, with the vision of what’s on the other side right before us.  We can choose to walk through it, we can choose to stand in the doorway till we’re ready,  we can turn back and never cross that threshold.

Doors offer a glimpse into the future.. what’s next. The option to indulge in it are yours. Is it freedom or confinement? Future or regression? Stand still or Reinvent your life? These defining moments, whether small or large are the doorways of your life that offer you opportunity or confine you. The choice is always yours.

I always walk through those doorways, usually I run thru them, excitedly approaching what’s next. What do you do? How do you live your life?

And what does your doorway look like? Big, small. simple, ornate? Wood, iron? With windows, without? How do the doors that present themselves in your life show up? And when? Are they barriers for you? Do they stop you or invite you?

There’s a saying that when one door closes, another opens.   Do you believe this?

What’s your interpretation of the doors in your life?


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I love other peoples’ stories. I see a family , a woman eating alone, a man in a biz suit, two friends chatting, a group of teenagers hanging out…and I’m curious.  Who are they, where are they from, what have they endured, who have they inspired, what’s been their contribution to humanity or community, are they happy or sad, coming or going, simple or complex, where were they born, where are they headed, what do they think about, what’s their story???

Not everything and everyone is as they appear and behind everything we see is some kind of story, anecdote, history, future, nuggets of what I deem to be interesting…

All around us there are stories – they just show up in different ways – songs, ads, social messages, movies, TV shows, photographs.

By nature, we are curious human beings and thus the ongoing interest in stories.

Everyone is a story, they are the center of their story, the Protagonist – each and everyone of us.  We bring our own self-working, emotions and experiences to all that is around us and everyone we interact with and it shapes how we perceive and experience our worlds.

The little anecdotes that are our lives are either gone unnoticed or become headlines…or somewhere in between, and they’re all little stories.

Have you ever looked at a house on your street and wondered who lives there? Watched a little old lady walking down the street and wondered what her long life sorry can tell – history, joys, observations, wisdoms, heartbreak, moments of courage?  The man sitting with his two boys having breakfast – is it just another day in their routine or is this the special monthly breakfast with divorced parents?

I’m always curious, I love to wonder and weave stories and tales in my mind and then wonder how right or wrong my hunch is about what I’m observing?

As I go about my busy day with my very busy mind, it never ceases to amaze me the room for this imaginative thought.  It’s a game of sorts and is probably the reason I don’t mind chatting with strangers.

So next time you glance at the old man crossing the road, that teenager with her friends giggling over a coffee at Starbucks, that sad lady on the phone in the middle of a shopping center, the young man at the grocery checkout, the clerk helping you at the yogurt store…everyone has a story – they’re the protagonist in their life and just maybe we’re playing a supporting role in their story.

Aren’t you a bit curious?

What’s your story? Are you living the story you want your life to be? It’s never too late to Reinvent your life in a myriad of ways.


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You CAN Have Your Cake And Eat It Too!!! Go Ahead – Reinvent Your Life – Just How You Want It!

Since it’s my Birthday week, it’s quite fitting to share this post …as I will be having my cake and eating it too!!

“You CAN have your cake and eat it too!”  We’ve all heard that expression throughout our lives and many have come to accept it.  But have you ever thought about what it really means, and why CAN’T you have your cake and eat it too?

Think about it – the expression implies that you can have your cake – but what? You’re supposed to just stare at it and NOT eat it?

When it comes to Life Reinvention – I’m a firm believer that you MUST have your cake, and  you MUST eat it too!!

You are entitled to have what you want in life – you have the power and your responsibility is to use it, own it and grab life by the horns and make it what you want.

No wonder so many people are lost and stuck in a life that they don’t want to be living.  They’ve been brought up believing that they are not to indulge in the things in life that make them happy and that you can only have “so much” but not the whole enchilada!

That’s absurd!  Why on earth can you not do what you love, be with who you want to be, create the hobbies and interests that you want to cultivate, build the life that is your optimal existence.  If you’re not hurting others, and what you want is not at someone else’s expense, you deserve to pursue all that makes you happy.

Are you afraid to go after it? Do you think you may not succeed? You won’t be able to attain it? Is the risk not worth the reward?

You need to prioritize yourself and begin to create the framework for what you want.  These can be small reinventions – baby steps towards the bigger goal.  But start setting your sights on what you want from your life and be clear about how to get there. I often talk about creating that roadmap – without it you just won’t get there or be able to chip away at the obstacles with clarity if you can’t define the path for yourself.

You want to have your cake AND eat it too? Then go for it!

Here’s what I do to stay the course, after I’ve identified something that I want to embrace (or tackle) as a new part of  “project me”…

Every night I go to bed, thinking about the few major things I want to accomplish the next day (or on Sundays, for the next week – in which case I write it down.)  Sometimes they are personal goals, some are business goals and tactical plans…. Some are family plans and projects… I’m not a  “type A” person, or so I’d like to think, but I find it keeps my head organized and clutter free, and it helps me get through the things I want.

We all  juggle a lot and keeping all the plates in the air is a fine skill – fun if you really master the art – a daily challenge – but fun, nonetheless!  Weekends are for the loftier goals but squeezing in some of the soft and precious stuff into the middle of a work week is good for the soul.  Sit back in the middle of a busy day – close your eyes – take a deep breath and clear your mind.  Allow yourself that focus and clarity to indulge and get back to “you”.

When was the last time you stopped and put yourself at the front of the line?  You’re entitled…

Yes, you’re entitled to have your cake and go ahead…EAT IT TOO!!!

And to quote the amazing new campaign by CADILLAC – #DareGreatly

“Our Greatest glory is not in never falling, but in getting up every time we do.” – Confucius


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Can Your Passion or Hobby Lead to a Reinvention?

Can your passion or hobby lead to a Reinvention?

You may be searching for your passion but maybe you’re trying too hard. In my journey and as I interview people for my book and new TV show, I hear many struggle with finding their passion.

Reinvention is about having that “aha moment” – saying to yourself “I want more,” “I want something different or new,” “I deserve to have something fun and beautiful in my life and I’m going to re-prioritize”…now, what is it?

Finding you passion is a very lofty and ambitious goal and like your Reinvention journey, there’s a roadmap to get there. You can’t necessarily wake up one day and “know” what your passion is or should be. It becomes daunting and then you’re disillusioned that you haven’t got a passion and there must be something wrong with you. Then you stop searching for something wonderful that you can enjoy…a hobby.

So start with a simple hobby – no agenda, no long term plan that this is going to “save your life” or get you out of what you’re doing. Just something that complements your day-to-day journey. Cooking, jewelry making, play an instrument, create some art, learn a language, kite flying, knitting, cycling, rock climbing, start a collection of something… Allow yourself an hour or two a week to indulge in it and see how much you can nurture your soul and find interest in something that’s yours and special to you. You’ll mingle with like-minded people around something of interest to you all and you never know what might come from that – but you have to allow it, that’s all.

Often, as we get older, priorities shift and we start to let go of those things that are important to us – we take care of others in our lives, we commit to our jobs and careers, which often aren’t related to our hobbies or interests but are simply a means to an end.

We then justify why we don’t have time for the things that make us feel good and settle for a complacent life.

It could be that a simple hobby, something you can have fun with and enjoy may ultimately become your passion. Then you can figure out if that hobby can transform your life.

You may need to pull your head out of your phone or computer long enough to see what’s going on around you. Do you realize how much of the world around you you’re missing as you text and email while you walk around? You’re probably not always present in your real world environment, surroundings and human interaction as you’re searching, reading and engaging in your digital microcosm.

It’s a bit of a metaphor for the way we live – buried in the present and not looking up to recognize what the world around us has to offer. Perhaps if we dreamed a little more and recognized that we’re entitled to have our hobbies and dreams, our new reality could be just what we want.

I’ve been interviewing folks for my book and TV show and recently came across a story of a woman who discovered a buried talent as an artist. She didn’t even know that she had a talent in her. She wasn’t frustrated and didn’t even wish she could follow her dream. She didn’t even realize that she had a gift, but she stumbled upon it and she allowed herself to recognize that what she was doing was truly art. It took one or two people to validate their enthusiasm for what she was doing, and that just continued to feed her passion that just kept growing. Years later, she’s highly regarded in her field, is making a wonderful living and is fulfilling a dream she didn’t even know she had.

She was open and receptive to the fact that what was showing up in her life was something that she could nurture. She chose to make something more out of it and allowed it to flourish. This is remarkable.

So do something new, look for a hobby, not a passion and let it take you places unexpected. It’s good for the soul. It’s your Reinvention.

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A New Year’s Reinvention

This is it – the day that we all resolve to look at our lives and do something different next year.  There’s no escaping it, it’s all around us and everyone’s talking about what they hope to do that will somehow improve the quality of their lives in 2014.  Ironically, last year, I chose not to write a blog about Reinvention and share these thoughts today because I believe that every day can be this day.  Reinvention is a great form of therapy and can be a good way to fight the post Holiday Blues.

If it were New Year’s Day 365 days a year, how would you Reinvent your life? The truth is, you can, and you are most likely to commit to it more if you start it any other day than today.  Getting swept up in the mass fanaticism of making a New Year’s Resolution isn’t as powerful as your own day of commitment that feels right for you.  Don’t  get me wrong, it’s a great starting point and I fully support you.  Just be aware of your intention and your focus to truly to commit to your Reinvention for all the right reasons – because it’s yours and you really want to do it.

Whether it’s a new career focus, a health kick, committing to volunteer work, more time with friends, traveling and expanding your horizons, going gluten-free, remodeling your home, kicking a bad habit – all Reinventions big or small are exciting and adventurous.  Lucky you for finding something that you want to focus on and evolve. Determine how you can create the journey to accomplish your goals, find the resources and support system you’ll need, establish your measurement for success and create milestones along the way so you can acknowledge and reward yourself.

If you can’t quite figure out what you want to Reinvent but you have that “itch,” look further for some inspiration at


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