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Empty Nester? Perfect Time to Reinvent Your Life!

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All the connotations of an empty nest appear to be negative and come with a huge dose of sadness. Our babies have flown the nest, left the coop, moved on to grow as adults and leave us holding … memories! Memories of the most beautiful, challenging, emotional, happy, special, life-changing moments ever. I love being a mommy, feeling needed, wanted, nurturing, care-taking while constantly being in awe of these amazing little people that turn into grown up human beings – that WE created!!! It never ceases to amaze me and give me such incredible joy and fills my heart.

For some this is a time of celebration – to have the house back to yourself, to do what you want when you want, to have no day-to-day care-taking responsibilities. No more late-night trips to the market to make sure there’s basic necessities in the fridge to feed your kids…and god forbid you have to make cookies for that bake-sale fundraiser at midnight while you’re on a business deadline!

Now those hugs and face-to-face conversations have transformed into texts, calls and expensive plane tickets, but that’s ok as this is the new “norm.”

But I’ve got news for you! This is also the greatest time to consider Reinventing Your Life!
It doesn’t have to be HUGE but as you know, Reinventions come in ALL shapes and sizes so just consider this for a moment…

What are you going to do with all those extra hours and the lack of responsibilities that you used to have day in and day out that were your excuse for not doing all those things you “said” you wanted to do?

Guess what? No excuses!

So, put on those running shoes, download that language app, go buy that garden shovel, pick up your old guitar, go tell your boss how you feel about your job so you can get that promotion, clean out and redo one of the rooms, do that volunteer work that your subconscious mind has been urging you to do, call up some friends you’ve been pushing aside for years, pick up that tennis racket, take back your weekends and do, something fun, make those travel plans with your friends and loved ones, visit some remote part of the city, be a tourist in your own hometown…

Getting the picture?

This is YOUR time, again! Use it wisely, love your children, make sure they’re doing great and support them growing into great people but also, show them how it’s done and what is possible in life!

It’s actually an amazing way for your kids to see that we should NEVER stop exploring the world, our interests, our passions and that their years in college are just the beginning of them testing out life as adults, finding their interests and passions, learning about things they never even knew existed.

I remember taking courses in college (I was a Communications major) such as Astronomy, Archaeology, Sociology of Deviant Behavior, Middle Eastern Studies, Public Speaking, Film Studies, Philosophy – these are the courses that I constantly recall, as I got exposure to things I might not ever experience or learn again. Those made an impression on me.

That was my time to explore and guess what? It is again…right now! I may not be in college but there’s an entire world full of hobbies, interests, destinations and people to discover.

Perhaps our journey is just beginning again so rethink those tough moments, don’t be sad or anxious that your kids aren’t around – cease the moment and dig deep – what are your passions and how are you going to live this one incredible life?

Enjoy and #HappyReinventing!

If They Can Do It, I can Do It! Change Your Habits and Reinvent!

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“Your beliefs become your thoughts, Your thoughts become your words,

Your words become your actions, Your actions become your habits,

Your habits become your values, Your values become your destiny.”

– Mahatma Gandhi

The more we see people succeed, break out of the norm, pursue their passions, make life happen… the more we realize we are not alone. They’re not special, they don’t have super powers, they just dared to dream and go for it.

Maybe it’s time you started changing habits, dreaming bigger and believe that you can do whatever you want.

Reinventing your life comes in all shapes and sizes. If you want to start working out, pick something fun and start small. Take a beginner’s class and start out easily so that you’re not in pain for a week and never want to do it again.

You want to learn a language? Go on Groupon download a language program – its right there. Don’t have time to do it? How about waking up 30 minutes earlier and taking a walk and doing two great things at the same time every day? Can you imagine how you would feel after just 10 days?

Wishing you could paint like a friend of yours who just picked up a paintbrush and started painting recently? They just started to do it, why can’t you? Do it for your own Joy, not to share or show to anyone, not to put on exhibit or post online, just do it for your passion and joy and to stretch your creativity!

Do you truly believe they have skills greater than yours? Are they smarter? Do they have some special gene that makes them more unique and capable than you? Or is it they just summoned the courage to actually try something they keep thinking and talking about? Is it about the time constraints you think you have? We’re all so busy and we say we don’t have the time but is that really true?

If you actually spent one week changing your habits, not watching your favorite TV shows, not monitoring your social media, and you wake up 30 minutes earlier every day, cancel lunch dates to spend time doing something that you’d like to try – writing, listening to the language lessons, planning a trip, researching a new career that you want to start, exploring more…you would be on your way!

Just like that!

I meet people every day in so many different walks of life and at so many levels of their careers – from 19-year-olds just starting out to 72-year-olds, all talking from a different perspective about what they wish they could do with their lives. What I find fascinating are the older folks who haven’t fulfilled their dreams, who look at their lives and wish they could’ve done so many other things and question whether or not it’s too late to tackle it now.

I have a friend who used a family tragedy as a catalyst to start checking off things on her bucket list. Confronted with the reality that our lives could be taken from us at any point, she realized that she wasn’t going to sit around and be one of those people that said I wish I had done this or that. She’s taking life by the horns and looking at how to conquer every fear and every dream small and large, and most certainly way out of her comfort zone. Everybody looks at what she’s doing and they’re wishing that they had the courage to Dream as she does.

So what does it take? How do you take that first leap of faith even if it’s something as small as starting that diet tomorrow, or telling your boss that you want a raise, or leaving that job so that you can go do what you really dreamed about, like opening that little chocolate store in the middle of Main Street, or saving people in Third World countries that need a helping hand, or move on from a bad relationship, or starting some charity work, or go horseback riding, or learn a language, or start spending more time discovering your spirituality, or align with a cause and find your voice,  or start meditating every morning for five minutes.

Anything that you do that adjusts your daily habits and routines and creates a new focus and a new direction in your life is an amazing moment of reinvention. One small change can create such a huge shift in your energy, your surroundings, the way you connect with other people, your moods. You’re sending a signal to those around you and to the universe that you are open and interested in creating the best possible life you could have and then you’re not going to be the one to say “I wish I could…”

Want to break old habits and create new ones? Start small and gain confidence with that feeling. You’ll find the joy, not fear that comes with “mixing it up” a little.

These mini Reinventions can shake up your norm. Changing your routine can remind you how new and exciting different experiences and habits can be – try the simplest of things for starters, like:

  • Drive to a different Starbucks in your neighborhood,
  • Order an Iced Tea vs Ice Latte
  • Put on shoes you have in the back of your closet, rather than the ones you wear all the time.
  • Wear a colored shirt vs black or white shirt with your suit
  • Walk vs drive to the close grocery store
  • Exercise in the morning vs evening
  • Read a book vs watching a tv show (dvr it for another time)
  • Call an old friend for dinner
  • Cook vs ordering in
  • Change your shampoo brand

Getting the picture?

We take for granted the daily habits that are our routine.

Try getting comfortable with change.

Embrace Change with Excitement and Courage

Minimize the Fear and let Inspiration and Curiosity take over

Have faith in who you’d like to be.  Believe it’s there. Go for it. Create it.

Life won’t just happen to you, make it all yours on your terms!

Happy Reinventing

 

#lifeonyourterms     #changeyourhabits    #HappyReinventing

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Reinvent Your Life – The Perfect Holiday/New Year’s Kick-Off Time

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If something is important enough, even if the odds are against you, you should still do it.   – Elon Musk

Reinvention is our Soul Food – it lifts our spirits, rekindles our fire, ignites our passion and renews our spirit.

Reinventions come in all shapes and sizes. They are “aha moments” when you realize that you really want to do something new, return to something you used to love doing, explore something you’ve dared only to dream of, explore your passions.  It’s a chance to further discover the real you and what you’re made of.  It’s chance to become the best version of yourself.

Overwhelmed by the thought of Reinventing but desperate to shake things up?  Wanting to explore that creative part of you that they’ve tried to suppress in you since you were seven years old?

Over the Holidays and as we approach the New Year, give yourself the perfect gift of precious time to spend on something you’ve been meaning to explore or delve into. Stop reading other people’s social media feeds, don’t binge watch anymore shows on NETFLIX…and do something truly special for yourself. Jumpstart your Reinvention.

Take the time over the holidays, don’t wait till the typical “January 1st” New Year’s Resolution. Start TODAY!

The holidays give you more down time so you can actually reinvest time in something that’s meaningful to you. The things you keep putting off because you have no time – just try spending THREE SESSIONS of time on something you’re interested on focusing on – whether it’s THREE HOURS, THREE HALF DAYS, THREE EVENINGS…whatever fits into your down time.

Once you do this, you’ll get “into it” and start to find ways to calendar more sessions of time working on this Reinvention plan, hobby, habit, inspiration. Don’t be discouraged if it’s a multi-year plan – it has to start somewhere so make NOW the time to create the plan, find your mentors, research what you need to know to create this new reality.

Here’s a list of places you can start looking into … Just pick one for starters – could be the catalyst for amazing new changes and inspiration in your life:

Diet/Exercise

Relationships

Friendships

Style/Fashion

Spirit/Religious

Yoga/Meditation

Work/Career

Personal Brand

Travel

Dreams

Attitude

Perspective

Hobbies

Habits

Routines

Leisure activities

R&R

Home Décor

No matter how big or small, a reinvention can completely shift your mood, morale and sense of adventure.  So go for it – give yourself an hour or two to delve into this just a little and embark on your Life Reinvention – it’s all yours!

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Meeting of the Inspired Minds – Tips and Tricks for Life Reinventions

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If you don’t like the road you’re walking, start paving another one. – Dolly Parton

I’ve been reading and listening to some interesting folks these days that contribute to the question I often ask of you… “What’s really holding you back from the one big or small Reinvention that you dream about?”

Through my marketing agency – THE SHARPE ALLIANCE – I’ve had the great privilege of working with great companies and clients – most recently the amazing @DianaNyad (the epic Cuba – Florida swimmer) and expedition partner Bonnie Stoll on their new venture EverWalk.  From the moment I met Diana I was riveted by her story, her laser focused inspiration and her incredible sense of what’s possible. Did I mention she’s only 67 years old?! And then I did it… I joined this incredible @EverWalk movement and am proud to say that I accomplished “my epic” – walking 33 miles a few weeks ago.

As part of #EverWalkNation and the inaugural event of a long-term movement to get this country up and walking — this seven-day walk from Los Angeles to San Diego motivated me and I had plenty of good exercise, fresh air and thankfully, some much needed reflective time. I invite you to check out www.EverWalk.com and pledge to walk at least three days a week – join #EverWalkNation

As I drove back to LA from our final Achievement spot in San Diego I was feeling particularly inspired and was listening to profound and interesting interviews, all touching on motivating ideas, forming new habits, quieting those doubting voices in our head and wanted to share with you some wisdom, tips and insights I’ve collected.

Here is some collaborative thinking and ideas that might motivate you and help you find your path to the Reinvention that you are seeking with links to interviews, podcasts and websites from @DianaNyad ,  @KathySmith , @Dr.PatrickPorter , @MelissaAmbrosini and @MelRobbins .

We also have habits!  Habits are hard to break and when you’re inspired by somebody like Diana Nyad and Bonnie Stoll who just launched the largest walking movement in American history – only three years after Diana Nyad accomplished the swim from Cuba to Florida -110.86 miles in about 53 consecutive hours – you realize that it is our mind that can control anything we want to do. Once we’re inspired or excited by an idea, it’s a whole other thing to get ourselves teed up and active in pursuing a dream so that it’s more than just a vision.

Check out Diana Nyad’s incredible TED TALK to capture the essence of her journey and experience during the epic swim.

Here’s a great interview/podcast between fitness guru Kathy Smith and Diana Nyad.

Kathy Smith also interviews Dr. Patrick Porter and they discuss habits, retraining our minds and creating tips and tools for breaking old habits and forming new ones.  Lots more great content from Kathy Smith can be found at www.KathySmith.com

First you have to question what’s actually holding you back.  Is it those voices in your head that are making you doubt why you are even worthy, or the idea that you have is even viable? If it is, it’s time to recognize what those voices in your head are actually saying to you so that you can isolate them and quiet them as Melissa Ambrosini says in “Mastering Your Mean Girl”… or your Bad Boy.  Those voices in our heads are what create the self-doubt to even take that next step. It’s not those around us that stop us.  It’s usually us – but we don’t realize how severe of an impact that has and how to control or quiet those adverse messages.  Take a look and listen to what Melissa has to say about all of this… https://melissaambrosini.com/

Mel Robbins“It Takes 5 Seconds to Change Your Life” – one of the most popular TedX Talks, is a life coach and is widely respected for her grab-’em-by-the-collar advice and tough love, Robbins drills through the mental clutter that stands between people and what they want. Her approach is smart, effective and entertaining… www.MelRobbins.com

These are some interesting and motivational talks and interviews but you have to find what works for you and who you connect with to provide the best inspiration.

I’ve had the honor of working closely with Diana and Bonnie on EverWalk, and watching something epic take form. Participating in EverWalk made me realize what I’m capable of when I have a reason and the team behind me and I’m pushed to do something that is way out of my comfort zone.

It’s often about the team – those who might support our vision, act as a mentor, share resources, provide advice.  Think about surrounding yourself with your own team when you’re embarking on a new journey, exploring a new concept and Reinventing a part of your life.

The next step is figuring out how to retrain yourself and your mind to actually do those things.  I believe that if the “will” is strong enough, we can do anything. Do you believe it? Are you willing to commit to yourself if you really want to affect a change in your life? If the answer is “yes” then take those moments of confidence and clarity and bottle them. Remind yourself how worthy you are and how great your idea is. Run with it!

Run with it, make a plan, find your team and go for your “Epic”!!

Enjoy some of these inspired links.  I’ll add some of them to the website along with other interesting and relevant websites and referrals.

What do you think? I’d love to hear your thoughts?

#HappyReinventing

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Discovery and Adventure – I Dare You to Reinvent Your Life!  

OMG – you’re not going to believe what I did!

Ok, ok…kinda’ kidding but wouldn’t you love to be saying that about something new and exciting in your life that you made happen?

“There is no greater way to reinvent yourself but through discovery.”- Kathi Sharpe-Ross

I’ve heard from a lot of friends and colleagues lately who aren’t where they want to be in life.  I’m glad I’m their friend and that I have chance to help give them strength and perspective to remind them of who they are.  I am having a lot of conversations that enable me to share a little of my wisdom and compassion, as well as my benefit of “distance” to hold a mirror up to them and to provide them with the strength to know who they are and dig deep to remember what they’re about, their values, their purpose and how to get where they wish they were going.

Can you relate to either side of that conversation?

It makes you question your own soul searching, even if you’re in your “happy place” and you’re helping out a friend or colleague.

What is your soul dream?

Shhhh be still, listen, really listen – who are you, no really? Are you the best version of yourself? Are you self-aware? Are you simply living the image that others want you to be or an illusion of who you could be?

And how do we really know if we’ve ever arrived at who we really are. We evolve, grow, learn, stretch, explore so many angles of ourselves and with each twist and turn, a new nugget appears – an epiphany, a wisdom, an insight that reveals just a little more that perhaps makes us that much more curious … That can be so fun but are you stopping long enough to even recognize it?  Are you capable of seeing what’s right in front of you or inside you to harness that energy and do something profound with it?

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A Letter To My Parents #HappyReinventing

I wrote this Blog sitting on a plane one day on one of my many cross-country flights, contemplating my wonderful life and thinking about all that I’m doing with the “Reinventing Your Life” space – my media company, website, book, blogs, interviews, content and social media.

I started this “hobby-turned-business” because people have always told me how lucky I am that I get to do what I want, when I want, how I want and my business – THE SHARPE ALLIANCE – always makes it look like I’m just having fun.

Not so! It’s hard work but I owe a lot to my parents who gave me the tools to recognize HOW to have the life that I want – entrepreneurial, no box, free spirited, balanced, passionate, curious and driven.  As they say, if you love what you do, you’ll never work a day in your life! And I do!!

For that I’m grateful and thus, I wrote this sitting on that plane ride and decided to share it with you.  I hope it resonates for you.  We don’t always stop and take stock of the profound impact our parents have had and the learnings we have taken away from all of our life experiences with them – good, bad, different, other… but if it weren’t for them, we wouldn’t be here!

I love you Mommy and Daddy! This one’s for you…

 

Thank you for showing me what’s possible

Thank you for bringing me up with the view that there’s no box

Showing me the world

How to be strong and independent

The safety I grew up with

The security to be me

To be self-reliant

To be open

To be inclusive

To be accepting

To see what’s possible

How to love

How to live

How to give

How to be compassionate

How be inspired

How to be curious

How to speak up

How to want more always

How to be involved

 

Not because it’s your birthday or Father’s Day or Mother’s Day

Just because I can. Thank you.

I love you!

Kathi

#HappyReinventing

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Freedom to Reinvent – The Man with the Violin

FREEDOM TO REINVENT – The Man with the Violin

Freedom is the Oxygen of the Soul – Moshe Dayan

Sadly, the events in the recent news make us realize how fragile life is and the importance of seizing the moment, making the most out of our lives and living life to the fullest.  Don’t wait to do the things you dream about.  Consider what your small or big Reinventions could be as you read my latest blog post.

Reinvention is our Soul Food.  It lifts our spirit, rekindles our fire, ignites our passion and renews our spirit. There are ways to transform parts of our life that impact all the moving pieces and when we’re open to the options and even the challenge, it can truly change our spirit, mood and complete environment.  We have the freedom to make these changes and Reinvent to our heart’s content.  Wouldn’t you like to take advantage of something that’s just at your fingertips?

I’ve often said that a great Reinvention can start with simply fulfilling a little desire and something we’ve been yearning to do but never got around to.  Having that extra hobby or passion to engage in lifts our spirit and nurtures our soul.

Well, I met a gentlemen last month who embodies that story and as I started talking to him, the way he lit up when he shared his story with me, said it all.

I was traveling on a biz trip when a mutual friend introduced us in the gateway prior to boarding the plane.  I knew he was heading to the same conference I was and I knew the business he was in.  He was carrying a rectangular case onto the plane and heading to the Intl Licensing Show.  I was curious what goodies he was carrying in the case with him for the conference. When he told me it was his violin and he “would t go anywhere without it” I was intrigued.

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THE DOG ATE MY HOMEWORK…AND OTHER EXCUSES FOR NOT LIVING YOUR IDEAL LIFE

The Dog Ate My Homework…and Other Excuses for not Living Your Ideal Life

 “He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else.”  – Benjamin Franklin

Whether  it’s been on your mind or never crossed your mind, there comes a time where reality about this notion of “life” and what it really is settles in and you realize that you’re saying “I wish had…” I should have…” What if I…”

Do you really want to wake up one day, perhaps when it really is too late and have regrets about all the things you might have done.  Call it the “Bucket List,” “Second Chapters,” “Life Reinventions,” they’re all a nagging reminder that living large and the journey of life can be quite extraordinary. It can be spiritual, health, career, hobby, relationships, business, skill related – anything you’ve thought of that might enhance this journey in your life.

Do you find yourself living vicariously through others –  marveling at their facebook page, reading stories of amazing ventures that others dared to take on, life changes that were a complete 360 that someone had the courage to figure out and tackle?

STOP!  Stop doing that to yourself.  It’s time to stop making excuses.  Especially now as you start to enter the “Empty Nester” phase of life.  This is the most exciting time of rediscovery in your life.  Recognize the things that have held you back for the last 20+ years and stop hiding behind them because if you ever had an excuse, now’s the time to dispel it.

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#BrainReinvention – The Irony of Social Media and Smart Phones 24/7

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It’s quite ironic that I would share this blog today as my agency is handling sponsorship for the 8th Annual Shorty Awards (this Monday in NYC – Live Stream on #YouTube @shortyawards – shameless plug)

So that said, I started this blog a few weeks ago as I realized how ironic/sad/telling of this generation …that we just don’t allow ourselves to be present…or do we?  Are we just present in so many more ways at the same time?  Is it really possible that we can’t multi-task that well or are we becoming more “multi-task-able” as our needs expand and evolve?  Yes, it’s evolution and given how little of our brains we are told that we use (apparently 10%), it seems there’s a lot more we’re capable of handling and processing. Well here it is!

Welcome to the #BrainReinvention period in society!

I had a great mini heated debate with the social media guru/entrepreneur Gary Vaynerchuk (@garyvee) over dinner at CES — I’m a traditional thinker with a progressive attitude and the thought of social media taking over our world, our kids brains and social aptitude just kills me.  Of course, I’m in the industry so what I dislike about it, I also love about it.  He accused me of being an “old fashioned thinker” when I pointed out how sad that our young generation are losing the art of a true social life.  “It’s just the way it is and it’s progress,” he said.  And he’s not wrong either!

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Maybe We Should…New Year’s Resolutions #HappyReinventing

Me? Write a New Year’s Resolution blog? You bet! Wouldn’t miss a chance like this while it’s the topic of conversation to inspire, motivate and remind you of what you’re capable of being in this lifetime.

If not now, when?

Yes, this is the same me who previously avoided putting out a blog during New Years as it was too “cliche” … I believed. So many resolutions established and unfulfilled. I just didn’t want to get into it in a New Year’s blog as I like to inspire year-round, not just once a year.

But maybe we really need to take heed of this age old tradition. After so many years of saying and resolving NOT to make any resolutions, we stop believing in the magic of simply setting our minds to something and making it happen.

That’s all it’s about, yet the repeated failures at whatever that lofty goal was causes us to eventually lose faith in ourselves and the ability to believe we have the discipline to stick to something we’re committed to.

The more that happens, we tend to give in to status quo – and our big dreams become smaller and smaller. Our visions of what we see ourselves doing becomes relegated to someone else and then we look on as an eager and wishful by-stander. Is that really what you want?

What we forget is it’s not too late to create those realities for ourselves. This year, have the courage to make one or two resolutions – make them “bite size,” achievable, attainable, then set more milestones. No need to take it all on at once.

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